Only 5% live their own life and own their energy. Are you one of them?
How to live for yourself when, like most parents, you genuinely want the best for your children?
They want them to be happy, confident, successful, and safe.
But here’s the question we rarely ask:
Do they really know what “best” means for that child?
Do they know the soul mission their child came here to fulfill?
Do they recognize the unique rhythm, energy, and calling of that little being — or are they trying to fit them into a mold based on their own fears and experiences?
The conversation that made me stop and reflect deeply
Not long ago, one of my children told me something I’ll never forget.
They said:
“Maybe you should have pushed me more. Maybe if I had done more sports, music, or language courses like the others, I’d feel more comfortable now when I look ahead in life. I know you provided all these but sometimes I didn’t want to join, and you didn’t push me to do it.”
That sentence stayed with me. Not because it was a trigger — but because it opened the door to a deeper question:
What does it actually mean to support a child?
Because yes, there are many kids whose calendars are filled to the brim with piano lessons, football training, foreign language classes, and extracurricular competitions.
Parents proudly drive them from one structured activity to another, hoping to give them every possible advantage. It looks impressive. It often feels like love.
But what if sometimes, behind that well-intentioned drive, there’s a hidden fear?
Fear that their child might fall behind.
Fear that they won’t be “good enough” in this competitive world.
Fear that they’ll end up disappointed, average, or — worst of all — lost.
And so, without even noticing, parents begin to schedule, control, and shape their child’s life according to what they believe is success, security, or worth.
But here’s the truth:
A child isn’t born to fulfill our incomplete dreams.
A child is born to discover who they are.
Yes, we should show them the world, challenge and inspire them.
Yes, we should introduce them to music, sports, nature, creativity, knowledge, and human connection.
But not because we want to save them from becoming “less” —
not because we’re trying to prevent them from failing —
not because we are scared they might not be “enough.”
That’s not love.
That’s parenting from fear and insecurity.
And if we do this long enough, the child will internalize this fear.
They’ll grow up believing that they have to perform, excel, prove, and achieve in order to be loved, accepted, or worthy.
They won’t know how to listen to their own rhythm — because they’ve always followed someone else’s tempo.
They won’t know how to own their energy — because it was always pulled, directed, or judged from the outside.
How to life for yourself? – The 5% who break free
Only around 5% of people truly live their own life.
Only a few ever stop and ask:
“Wait a minute… is this job, this relationship, this version of me actually mine — or was it given to me by someone else?”
The rest?
They live by default, not by design.
They repeat patterns.
They chase goals they never truly wanted.
They carry their parents’ fears and society’s rules as if they were sacred truths.
They leak their energy every day — to approval, to expectations, to inner critics that don’t even sound like their own voice.
But this doesn’t have to be the end of the story.
Because the moment you question the origin of your identity, you create space for something new to emerge.
The moment you realize how to live for yourself, you can say:
“I’m allowed to live differently,”
you step onto a path of self-reclamation.
You begin to own your energy — instead of giving it away.
You begin to live your life — not your parents’, not your teachers’, not society’s.
So what does it look like to support a child in a healthy way?
It means listening.
It means observing their natural curiosity and giving it space to grow.
It means letting them be “bored” sometimes — so they can discover their own inner world.
It means offering, not forcing.
It means remembering that childhood is not a race to adulthood.
It’s the sacred time of discovering “Who am I?”
And yes, it means challenging them — but not to make you feel better.
Not to calm your fear of their future.
Challenge them to become present with themselves.
To feel, express and trust their own energy and choices.
If we raise children this way, they might not be the fastest or the loudest in the room…
but they will know how to hear their inner voice in a noisy world.
And that, in the long run, is what makes them powerful.
For adults reading this — you included:
Ask yourself:
- Whose life am I living?
- Do I act from freedom — or programming?
- Am I connected to my own energy, or still trying to fulfill someone else’s expectations?
- What part of me was silenced as a child in the name of “success”?
Becoming part of the 5% doesn’t require perfection.
It requires honesty.
A willingness to look inward.
A decision to choose your truth — even if it disrupts everything you’ve been taught.
You are allowed to be different and decide how to live for yourself.
You are allowed to walk your own path.
You are allowed to parent from trust, not fear.
You are allowed to reclaim your energy — and your story.
This is your invitation to stop surviving someone else’s plan
and start living your own truth.
Because the world doesn’t need more well-behaved, perfectly programmed people.
It needs more awake, whole, soul-led humans.And that begins with you.
No, you don’t have to contact me for a change but if you wish to, you can make it happen here.
